Last week, I shared about the inner conflict and difficulty I experienced while traveling to my live event in California. I wrote about how I reached out for support during a time when I was struggling, and unable to find my “center” (as a mom and entrepreneur), and how the presence of community is what allowed for the speedy shift that my family and I experienced. Sharing vulnerably allowed others to hold space for me, support me powerfully and essentially create an even deeper bond for my family and I.
Don’t get me wrong – as an “independent, strong” woman, I never reached out for support. I’ve always been the one “supporting” since I can remember. Known as everyone’s rock, and the person that “can get you through anything”. And yet, I never learned to trust that others can do the same for me. I was always afraid that they would never “show up” the way I needed them to. Or that I may be judged, or seen as weak.
Until I realized a little golden nugget.
That the more I depended on others, the more dependable they became.
Eventually, that took me to the next epiphany.
The more I receive, the more I can give.
I only knew one part to this equation. Since I am a giver, and so I only understood…”the more you give, the more you receive”.
The difference is that it doesn’t only go one way. If it only travels one way, and you’re just giving and giving, eventually…you’ll be tapped out, with nothing else to give.
And so naturally… if we receive in return, we then have more to give.
I got this down now. And as a result, my life – my family, my business and relationships have grown dramatically in the last year thanks to the giving and receiving that exists within the various communities I’m a part of.
And I realize how the power of community and togetherness can accelerate not just our individual growth, but also our collective growth.
The reality is that we’re not wired to do things alone – we evolved throughout time, simply because we were a part of a community. This led us to understand that when we come together, we can accomplish by far more, as a unit.
Here’s how it works, and the 3 reasons why we need each other:
1. Ideas & Solutions – I’ve found that like-minded communities creates a unique blend of wisdom thanks to the diversity of expertise, backgrounds, and different perspectives. This provides an environment where different approaches, ideas, and options become available to solve the same exact problem. And the other piece to this is that not one person ever has all the answers (no matter how savvy you are with Google and Siri). Consulting with real experts and real people will always provide you with real information – and you get to dive into the problem as deeply as you need to, with a live conversation.
2. Overcoming Barriers – When working alone and feeling stuck, there are those times when we’ll be tempted to just give up. Being a part of a like-minded group that has similar goals and desires offers support through accountability. You’ll have help to be kept on tract, just by putting your goals out there, and you can always ask for others to be accountable for you (and vice versa). This will help you stay motivated, and depending on the group, the friendly competition can inspire you to take the next step, and finally overcome a limiting barrier. You’ll find yourself moving freely towards your goals much faster, than if you went at it alone.
3. Support – There will be those days when you lose site of your goal, and you get caught up in a whirlwind. When you’ve completely lost your “center”, and are being guided by emotion, instead of intuition. Those are the moments you reach out, and lean into your community. They will not let you go. They got you, and will hold you, and show you the way to the other side.
The first and most important step is to allow others to help you (as hard as that may be at first). But remember that once you do, it will re-fill your cup and allow you to give more than you even thought possible. This exchange of support, ultimately raises everyone’s potential and possibilities.
I’ve been home for 2 weeks now, and I’ve continued to tap into my communities for support in both my personal life and in business, and I’m deeply humbled by the generosity that exists in our world. People love to help, (just like you do), and I believe we shouldn’t keep that from them.
And so I’ve been moved to build a community that brings together fellow moms that are creating a family, and business they love, so that they can have a place to grow together; share together; support each other; and learn from each other. If you’d like to have an intimate, inspiring, informative and fun place tap into when you’re feeling stuck; or if you simply need resources; connection; or to learn how to tackle some tech issue; or maybe just to upgrade a skill-set needed to take you to the next level, you’re welcome to join in here, and build this together.
I’ll be there offering business advice, tips, trainings, expert interviews, and lots love, whenever needed. I’ll also have occasional group calls so that we can all connect in a live, deeper and more of a sacred space.
And if you’re a dad, or perhaps not a parent reading this, just tap me, and I’m happy to offer suggestions to communities, depending on what you’re looking for.
Remember that although we no longer have those communal benefits we once had, we do have the opportunity to be part of a “togetherness”, so that no one stands alone, nor journeys alone, and in this way…we create a new norm around community. I believe that today’s communities are evolving into our new families.
May this new community offer a helping hand, during bumpy moments, as you continue to grow, and give more of yourself. I’ve set the intention for this group to fill your cup in more ways than one, and to expand you, so that you can give what you’re meant to, to our world.
I look forward to seeing you there,
PS. I haven’t officially shared this group yet. You are the first to know about it, and I’m happy to grow it with you. After you join the group, if you’d like to invite your own friends and have more of your tribe in there, feel free to share this link with them. I’m excited to grow this with you!